Posts on saying what needs to be said- boundaries, difficult conversations, and speaking up instead of staying silent.
I’ve done a fair amount of traveling over the last two years. It’s been a mix of solo time as well as time visiting both friends and family. Some of the people I have reconnected with are folks I have not seen and/or talked to in decades. And I’ve noticed a common theme with many…
Discussions about relationships dominated many of my counseling sessions. As I had explained to Ken- the failing marriage which spurred me into counseling would be my second divorce. And in both instances, I was the one exiting the relationships with no interest in attempting to repair the rifts or reconcile the marriage. I was anxious…
Ken and I had spent several sessions working on changing the paradigm in my mind about how women and men should relate to each other ~ it is not about a struggle for power- it is about resolving conflicts together. In a healthy relationship: The partners value each other Fear and cynicism do not dictate…
Image by Wolfgang Eckert from Pixabay Let’s start with a moment of self-reflection. This is not about anyone else or their behavior– this is about YOU. Mirror, Mirror on the wall Tell me, tell me true… Which of these awful relationship habits are the ones I do? Criticism Stonewalling Defensiveness Contempt hurts relationships. Criticism Criticism…
I am not a perfect person. Far from it. And I know it. As Pastor Michael Todd says, Not perfect, but progressing.” When I recognize an area where I struggle, I really, really try to work on improving in that area. Being critical is one such area. Critical of myself, critical of others. Image by…
I could have turned out differently. Wait, that’s a terrible introduction. Let me start over… What came first, the chicken or the egg? Nature or Nurture? Are we the way we are because of genetics, or have we been primarily impacted by how we were raised? Image by Lolame from Pixabay Image by Jasmine Milton…