When the subject of Splankna comes up, people often wonder and ask, “How will I know it works?”
In my last post, I said I would talk about how I have seen Splankna work in my own life.
Because- let’s be clear- when I am in the midst of a struggle, being told “just have faith in God” makes me want to punch someone right in the throat (or am I the only one who feels that way? 😳) So I’m not going to tell you, “Just have faith in the process”.
“How will I know Splankna is working?” is a fair question. Sometimes we don’t see the fruit of our labors immediately. (In today’s microwave/Instant Pot world, we don’t want to wait 8-10 hours for our meal from the slow cooker.) And sometimes, even when there’s fruit from the work, we don’t recognize it for what it is.
So while I won’t say, “Yes, you will definitely and immediately stop doing <insert your unhealthy habit here>”, I CAN share how and when I recognized a shift in my behavior as a result of Splankna.
Here’s MY story.
In my early days, shortly after I had attended Core level Splankna training, I had traveled to spend a couple/few months in Oklahoma, hoping to work with some other Splankna practitioners. During my time there, I benefitted from several sessions with other practitioners who had already = completed Advanced and Master level training.
As with all Splankna sessions, you talk to the practitioner about what you want to work on (usually called the ‘presenting issue’), i.e. “Here’s where I’m struggling” or “This is where I feel like I’m really stuck,” etc.. We open in prayer, and we ask God to take us back to the root of XYZ issue and help us address it.
I went in, specifically wanting to work on and through something that I felt was currently affecting my life. It was an area that I was really struggling with, and I felt the issue was really holding me back. I knew when it had started, so I was pretty sure what age we should hit going into the work.
But that did not happen.
When we went into it, the time frame indicated a theme, rather than a singular event. Theme work addresses recurring emotional patterns that show up across multiple experiences in your life- basically the same emotional garbage in separate situations—rather than focusing on a single event. Like working on ‘fear of rejection’ that plays out in your career decisions, romantic relationships, and social situations, instead of just one specific incident.
And for this theme work, the timeline and emotions lined up perfectly with the separation and divorce from my second husband (along with all the ugliness that transpired).
when the timeline came up and she asked me, “What was happening during that time period in your life, I was instantly irritated, because I knew where it was leading and it was NOT something I wanted to work on. So let me say this now, loudly and clearly, so there is no confusion: God doesn’t do what we want him to do when we want him to do it. And that’s just something you have to expect and accept in Splankna work. In my experience, he will often zero in on the issue you want to address, but he is just as likely to bring up something else. And sometimes (oftentimes) that ‘something else’ is tangential to the issue you raised. (Kind of like peeling an onion in layers… or, in some instances, peeling the carrots before he lets us peel the potatoes).
So here I am, thinking, “Hey, God, I want to work on this. This is my biggest stumbling block.” And God says, yeah, no, we’re going to pivot and go over here because you really need to work through this. And that’s what he did in that session.
The session took me back to time period between my separate and divorce from my second husband. The minute the practitioner gave me the time frames, I was instantly irritated. Our children are adults, so I don’t have to talk with him or deal with him surrounding any matters and at that time, he was literally the last person that I wanted to spend any time or energy thinking about in context to relationship issues. When I asked for a divorce and he refused, the relationship became very contentious, so the last thing I wanted to do was re-introduce the negative energy from that time period into my current life.
But we did the work. The whole session was basically around the separation and all the things that happened during the separation, all the way up until the divorce.
I won’t bore you with the details—actually, it was pretty incredible what memories and experiences came back up, but the details of that session are not important. What is important is the impact it had, so that’s where we’ll focus this.
I left there salty about it. Salty’s the best word. I had much attitude because I did not appreciate God wanting to go back to these moments in time and bring up these specific memories and events and occurrences. I left there thinking, well, that was a waste of my time and money, because I don’t have to deal with him anymore, and so anything surrounding him is a moot point.
Until…
Until a few weeks later.
I was talking about my son with a friend. My son is an adult who had recently separated from the military and had moved back to our home state of Alaska. While getting settled, he moved back in with my ex-husband. So now, this person who had intentionally made my life miserable and was someone that I never want to have to interact with again is who my son was living with and being influenced by. I had taken that news hard. It also meant that there was always the potential that he was going to be somewhere on the periphery of my life, because I love my son dearly and want to continue to have a good relationship with him. Since my ex-husband is part of his world (they lived together and worked for the same company), which means, on the periphery, he was always going to be someone on the periphery of mine. That was my mindset before the session.
Then, something came up about where my son was living, and I said he had moved back to Alaska and was living with my ex-husband. My friend, knowing the history of what had transpired, expressed concern about what that meant, and we were hashing it all out. And then, all of a sudden, it hit me.
I wasn’t having my (previously) normal response.
And by normal, I mean my standard response, which was super angry with a ton of negativity.
In the middle of our conversation, it suddenly hit me that, oh my gosh, I’m not doing that anymore. I didn’t have a hateful response. Suddenly, when I think about my ex-husband, it doesn’t consume me with anger and frustration about what he did anymore. The anger isn’t there. The resentment isn’t there. I just don’t care.
I mean, let’s be clear- he did some horrible and heinous things, and I will never think they was appropriate or okay… but even though his behavior hadn’t changed, my response surrounding him has. I still marvel when I think, “My ex-husband came up in the conversation, and I didn’t care.”
And while it may seem to some people like such a little thing, it’s really a big thing. If you had ever seen how I responded to any conversation surrounding him beforehand, you would recognize that this was a huge shift. And it’s a huge shift that I didn’t even realize I’d made.
Because he isn’t part of my day to day, I didn’t see how my new response around him was at play. There wasn’t anything that triggered it—I just suddenly realized the change had already happened. And that’s when I said to myself, “Ok God, I see what you did there.”
Over a decade of anger and resentment and frustration from one person’s actions and behavior- gone. I’m free! I’m free! 
I invite you to experience the freedom Splankna offers!
